Facing Your Fears by LaurenxElle
I BELIEVE LIFE IS ABOUT TAKING RISKS. WHEN I THINK ABOUT RISKS, I OFTEN THINK OF FEAR. I BELIEVE MOST, OR MAYBE WE ALL, HAVE BEEN TRAINED TO THINK THAT TAKING RISKS COULD BE “SCARY”. I LIKE TO LOOK AT RISKS AS CHALLENGES FOR ME. I’M ALWAYS CURIOUS TO SEE OR KNOW THE OUTCOME. WILL IT GO AS I EXPECTED? DID I EVEN EXPECT ANYTHING AT ALL? F*CK IT. I WON’T KNOW IF I DON’T TRY.
FACING MY FEARS BECOMING AN ADULT SEEMED TO GET EASIER FOR ME. WITH AGE COMES WISDOM. WHEN WE’RE YOUNG, WE ARE FEARLESS. NOTHING CAN SCARE US. THEN AS WE GET OLDER, WE ENCOUNTER OTHER TYPES OF FEARS BECAUSE OF EXPERIENCES WE’VE HAD. BEING YOUNG AND NAIVE, COMPARED TO MATURE AND AWARE, THERE’S LESS RESPONSIBILITY AND LESS ACCOUNTABILITY. BEING AN ADULT HAVING TO TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY AND ACCOUNTABILITY FOR EVERYTHING YOU DO, YOU FEAR THINGS IN A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE.
HAVING FAITH IS HOW I CONQUER MY FEARS. IF I’M UNSURE ABOUT SOMETHING BECAUSE I FEAR I MAY NOT SUCCEED, I PRAY ON IT. I CAN’T ALLOW FEAR TO TAKE OVER ME. THERE’S SO MANY THINGS IN LIFE I WANT TO DO AND ACCOMPLISH AND WITH FEAR, I WON’T BE ABLE TO DO IT. HOW ARE YOU EVER SUPPOSED TO LIVE IF YOU ARE AFRAID TO TRY SOMETHING NEW OR ANYTHING AT ALL? APPLYING IT TO CAREERS, RELATIONSHIPS, GOALS AND LIFE IN GENERAL, BECOMES REWARDING.
WHEN I’VE HAD CONVERSATIONS WITH PEOPLE ABOUT TRAVELING SOLO, ONE OF THE FIRST QUESTIONS I’M ALWAYS ASKED IS, “YOU WEREN’T AFRAID TO BE BY YOURSELF?” NO. I WASN’T AFRAID TO BE TRAVELING ALONE. IT’S ACTUALLY REFRESHING, INSIGHTFUL AND FUN. I DO ALL MY FAVORITE THINGS WHEN I WANT, HOWEVER LONG I WANT AND ON MY OWN SCHEDULE. OF COURSE I’VE TRAVELED WITH FRIENDS BEFORE, BUT TRAVELING ALONE IS A DIFFERENT TYPE OF EXPERIENCE. I THINK THAT YOU FACE MULTIPLE FEARS AND GAIN NEW ONES BEING ALONE, IN A FOREIGN PLACE, HAVING TO FIND OUT NEW WAYS TO FIGURE SH*T OUT, IT’S INTERESTING. GETTING OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE WILL HAVE YOU LEARNING NEW THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF.
OVERCOMING YOUR FEARS WILL OPEN UP A NEW MINDSET AND ATTITUDE ON LIFE. SUCCUMBING TO YOUR FEARS WILL IMMOBILIZE YOU AND BRING REGRET. SHOULDA, COULDA, WOULDA WILL STILL BE APART OF YOUR VOCABULARY, YOU’LL BE UNHAPPY AND FEEL LIKE YOU’RE MISSING OUT. WHATEVER YOUR FEAR IS, WHETHER ITS LEARNING HOW TO SWIM, STARTING A BUSINESS, CHANGING CAREER PATHS, YOU JUST HAVE TO DO IT! SET SMALL GOALS TO GRADUALLY BUILD TO THE BIGGER GOAL OF FACING YOUR FEAR. REMEMBER TO BE PATIENT WITH YOURSELF AND DO WHAT FEELS RIGHT FOR YOU.
-ELLE
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